Everybody lies. What shade of 'good' or 'bad' it is ultimately depends on where you're standing and what angle you're observing it from. According to Webster a white lie is 'A lie about a small or unimportant matter that someone tells to avoid hurting another person.' For example, you might tell someone you love that you really enjoy that new song their band just released and that you think it's really going to be their breakout hit even though their music really isn't your thing and the song kind of sounds like every other one they've shown you so far. You love them and want to support their passion though, and I mean certain parts are kind of catchy so you give them words of encouragement in the form of a harmless and helpful white lie.
Other lies get a little more complicated. Whether we like to admit it or not, it feels good to fit in. Fitting in usually comes with peer recognition, love, safety, and a myriad of other feelings we crave as biological, social creatures. We like feeling like we're a part of something, something more than us. For our ancestors, being distinguishably similar to each other was literally a matter of life and death. They had to decide very quickly whether the creature in front of them was friend or foe to stay out of danger and keep on living. The surest way to fit into a new group that you know very little about is to lie. Depending on your personal moral compass and intention behind the lie, it can end up benefiting you and the new group you're trying to assimilate into. Lying is at the heart of the adage 'fake it until you make it.'
The lyrics for the first single off of Mistakes We Make are about how we all lie about things sometimes, whether it's to fit in, to keep from hurting someone's feelings, for malicious intentions, and countless other reasons. For most people, excessive or unnecessary lying will create feelings of guilt and internal conflict. However, certain people are able to compulsively and manipulatively lie on a constant basis to get what they want because they are incapable of empathy - incapable of seeing that their lies hurt others. Since moving to Arizona I've come into contact with at least two people like this and I'm sure I've met countless more without even realizing it. PantsOnFire is about how, because we all engage in this game of lying, we create the conditions to allow these psychopaths to climb the social ladder and do things like become President of the United States. Instead of calling these people out on their lies, we let them get away with it for fear someone will call us out on our own lies. It's important to understand that as individuals we are unable to change these people. The best we can do is recognize them and remove them from our social circles. Until every single person on earth refuses to accept their behavior they will continue to do it again and again and again.